A Valentine’s Day That Will Win Her Heart: The Key to Romance



Posted: Wednesday, February 07, 2007

by Tammy Sweet
Sweet Chic

For the most part, men are easy to please when it comes to Valentine’s Day. It is the woman who is a little more complex in finding a gift that will get her to “WOW."

The status quo Valentine’s gifts include:

· Chocolates

· Candies

· Flowers

· Dinner out

Whatever gifts you have given in the past may have brought on a smile and a sincere “Thank you." She said these words because she was pleased that you thought of her, and that you took time out of your day to at least remember the occasion. But did the gift move her emotionally? Were you able to make her heart swoon? Gaining this type of reaction can be perplexing to many men. It is so bewildering, that the majority of men simply give up hopes of attaining such a reaction from their beloved, and cease trying.

My husband and I were watching a wonderfully romantic movie by the name of “Kate and Leopold". In this movie, Leopold uses his best penmanship to construct and design an invitation for dear Kate to meet him on the rooftop. The occasion: an intimate dinner. She accepts and upon her arrival, she beholds a setting adorned with fresh flowers, champagne, a delicious meal, and candles. My husband chuckled as he observed this scene, and his statement was, “If I tried doing something like that, it would totally flop." Most men do not realize that although their efforts may result in a “flop", the fact that he makes such an attempt demonstrates to his beloved that he cares deeply about her. A man that goes out of his way to do something truly special for a woman will win her heart.

Romance seems to baffle men the world over, but what men do not realize, is that romance is not about flowers, chocolates, and dinner out. The meaning of romance entails something much deeper than the actual gift. True romance is more about the thoughts and motives behind the gift. Is your Valentine’s gift just an item that will ensure you have received a check mark for accomplishing the duty of giving on a holiday? Or do you see the holiday as an opportunity to truly show her how much you love her?

The secret to this type of gift: Listen to her and study who she is.

Every woman is different, and desires different things. Therefore, there is no such thing as a formula to romance. The formula lies right next to you every night; it’s just a matter of you figuring out the equation. Although men would rather a woman just come right out and say what she would really like, it is not in a female’s nature to do so. A woman feels badly about asking for things. But if you really listen to her, you will hear her speak about those things that she desires and dreams of in day to day conversations. Little comments within the everyday discussions will give you the information you need for her perfect equation to romance.

For example, say she likes a certain musical group. Surprise her by getting tickets to attend one of their performances. If you know a particular place she likes to shop, go there and buy an outfit for her. Remember that it is okay if she makes a return. She will still be thoroughly impressed that you paid attention to what she was saying, and that you made an attempt to go out of your way for her. You can also go shopping with her, and simply take notice of what she stops to view. Listen to her comments about each item she examines, and then go back later and get what she was most impressed by, but wouldn’t buy for herself.

Is this a great deal of work and trouble for a man? Yes. Is it worth the trouble? Yes. You will win her heart, and have a relationship better than you have ever imagined.

Tammy Sweet owns the boutique known as Sweet Chic. She attends seminars for upcoming trends and composes articles for various venues. Mrs. Sweet consults a variety of clients in order to enlighten others with upcoming fashion and beauty trends. Press and spotlighted fashion products may be viewed at www.sweet-chic.net.
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